Movin on but not far

[morgaina]

In general things are going very well. I see Deva & family almost daily, to the point where I am longing for more Art time. My son is getting a drawing done daily and even some writing, not sure how he is doing that, Wee Beatrice is an extremely active child. Today they have to leave the AirBnB, they only are able to stay for a month before zoning comes into the picture. So they are moving in with me for the rest of their time before they return to China.

But their and my, big, big news is that they are buying a house in Moscow with the plan of living here every summer!!! Not only that but they are buying a duplex and I am going to rent that and move in sometime next year. They plan to rent their part to a student for the school year and I will be the apartment manager.

I can't believe it and don't know what to think of first. I have a love-hate relationship with my place here. I can't handle all this land and a house that is falling down around my ears, but it's my home. I raised my babies here, I planted every non-willow or cottonwood tree on the place and they are now majestic. I fought for my kids and I to stay when my ex husband tried to sell it out from under us without my knowledge. Amby can run free like a speedy nut job. I have the best pottery studio in the world here and I can do pit firings with no one caring about the billowing smoke. I have over 5 fruit trees that are so heavy with fruit they are bent over. But carrying wood, wood pellets, shoveling snow, having snow plowed, being cold all winter and as I said, the house degrading every season, I know I can't safely stay.

I am also going to have to get rid of 2/3 to 3/4 of my stuff too. Its a not large apartment. There is room for a small studio, but when I started doing pottery eons ago, I always worked in an extra bedroom. So that will be a bit of a challenge, but not much. Its the stuff stuff that concerns.

Comments

[mrq-laurellen.livejournal.com]

I am both happy for you and sad, too. I worry about you during the winter and I am glad that you'll be moving. But leaving your home. I feel for you, there. And your studio. That will be tough.

If you need any help, please don't hesitate. You've got a ton of friends...

[tsuruko-sensei.livejournal.com]

It sounds like the potential move will be bittersweet. But I think it will be better for you in the long run. I've been concerned for you out there by yourself especially in the winter. If they are buying the duplex vs renting it maybe you could put up a work shop on the property if there's room. And they'll probably let you plant stuff.

[freewaydiva.livejournal.com]

I can't tell you how happy I am to hear that, both from a "living in a safer/easier to manage space" view and a "having a family support system around/mental health" view. How wonderful!

[copper-oxide.livejournal.com]

Thanks for your concern everyone.
I am going through so many thoughts now. I have a hard time leaving or quitting anything. Causing a lot of introspection.

[katanubis.livejournal.com]

I've also worried about you every winter.

But there's a big difference between being forced to leave your much needed home and choosing to have a different home.

Will you be able to have a pottery studio at the new place?

[the-thread-lady.livejournal.com]

Ralph and I are glad that you will be moving into town. It will be so much easier for you in the winter.

It is hard to leave a place where so much of your life occured, and you have so many memories.

Yahoo!

[hrollaug.livejournal.com]

Glad to hear you are moving to town

[copper-oxide.livejournal.com]

Yes indeed I wouldn't consider moving without one!
Smaller though, but I can adjust to that. It won't be as cool a studio, but it might even be good for me to downsize.

[rectangularcat]

What exciting news! So happy you will see your family each summer and get the opportunity to grow close to your granddaughter. Modern job mobility means it isn't possible for all to do this and I am so glad you will be able to.

We moved back to super expensive Vancouver so my daughter could be closer to family and it has been so good for her. One sees family in a different light once parenthood happens. You are such a good, vibrant, caring person and wee Beatrice is so lucky. Much beaming here.

[copper-oxide.livejournal.com]

I appreciate you moving closer to family. I think we don't appreciate enough the importance of Grandparents in this culture. That they really are a part of a child's upbringing. In the Nez Perce culture, maybe other tribes too, Gramma has a sacred role.

[rectangularcat]

Very true. For various reasons, I grew super close to my grandparents and I bonded with them closer than my own parents. I guess I lucked out into appreciating the positive impact grandparents canhave. My daughter is very close to my mother in law. She barely knows my own parents which is sad and not of my choosing but the door is always open for them to see her.

The Dene folks I met in the north have huge closeness to their elders. Some supervisors at the mine got upset at giving so much time off for funerals of so many grandparents. Yeah, not cool. Maybe our culture is focused too much on individual achievement for us to recognize that we are building upon the work and sacrifice of our elders. Or maybe we younger adults just aren't as patient? My daughter is so much better at being kind and patient than me.